UVU President Astrid S. Tuminez also spoke about lifelong learning and embracing the journey — both your own and the journeys of others. She invited her daughter, UVU graduating senior Michal Tuminez Tolk, to join her as they addressed the Class of 2023 together.
Tolk spoke about her decision to leave a graduate program at Columbia University to travel across North America and Asia, serving as an apprentice to farmers and homesteading families. Her decision came as a surprise to her mother.
“When Michal became an itinerant farmer, I became unmoored,” President Tuminez said. “I felt fear for her safety, shame at my failed parenting, grief that she disconnected from family, and anger that she had deviated from the linear road I envisioned for her.”
With time, therapy, and prayer, President Tuminez said she learned to be kinder to herself and to trust her daughter’s choices. “My child was on her own hero’s journey, slaying her own monsters, achieving her own summits, and getting her own education,” she said.
“Spending that time with a diverse range of families allowed me to witness that no matter how idyllic your living situation is, no matter how much food you’re growing, the quality of your relationships is what ultimately determines the quality of your life,” Tuminez Tolk said.
President Tuminez emphasized that each person’s journey is a unique, non-linear experience.
“Each of you has ventured on your own hero’s journey,” she said. “Sometimes those who love you best may not understand this journey. Be gentle with them. Phone them, talk to them, forgive them, and love them.”
UVUSA student body president Lexi Soto also addressed the Class of 2023, underscoring the need to accept change and recognize all the people who have helped along the way.
“Change is necessary,” Soto said. “It’s hard, and it’s scary. Sometimes you change for the better or for the worst, and you must make yourself better again, and that’s OK.”